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Witness-Katy Perry
In honor of the New Moon in Scorpio during Scorpio season I want to pay homage to a triple Scorpio queen. Katy Perry has her Sun, Moon, Rising, Mercury, Saturn and Pluto all in Scorpio. Let’s just say she’s an incredibly dynamic Scorpionic soul. As I study Astrology and deepen my knowledge I like to listen to specific artists during their solar return season. Since it is Scorpio season I’ve been visiting Katy Perry, Lorde and SZA just to name a few female artists with their sun in Scorpio.
While listening to Katy’s album “Witness” I was inspired by this title track. I feel like the song embodies what a client may be looking for when they enter into counseling. Let me break down some lyrics for you to make my point.
If I lost it all today, would you stay?
Could my love be enough to stimulate?
If shit hit the fan, grenades got thrown
Would you still show, oh?
Could you go down with me to the mat?
Could we get back up and eventually laugh?
Roll eyes at highs, cheers in the lows, and stay in the flow, oh
This is the first verse of the song and I feel like it represents how a client may feel in intimate relationships that causes them to enter therapy, as well as what they may be looking for from a counseling relationship. If “shit hit the fan” in your relationship and your partner just dipped you may be at a loss, heartbroken and looking for support.
This is also a challenging dynamic in building a trusting therapeutic relationship. Sometimes clients will wonder and worry if their therapist will still be there, if they can be a reliable and dependent relationship that will “show up” even after self-disclosure. You may wonder “if I reveal myself, will if be too much? If they really knew me they wouldn’t like me. My therapist will judge me if I’m completely honest.” Trust me, we are there through thick and thin. This is our job, to support you and accept you exactly as you are and where you are in this phase of life. Therapists sometimes feel this way too. If a client has revealed something deep they are less likely to return the next session. We are also wondering if you can go down to the depths with us and still come back next week “and eventually laugh.”
We're all just looking for connection
Yeah, we all want to be seen
I'm looking for someone who speaks my language
Someone to ride this ride with me
Can I get a witness? (Witness)
Will you be my witness? (Witness)
I'm just looking for a witness in all of this
Looking for a witness to get me through this
This chorus is so poignant. I don’t think I need to break this down at all, just read it. Who is not feeling this way today? Who isn’t looking for connection and to be seen for who you truly are? We are all trying to connect again and have someone to be there with us through the ups and downs. A therapist is so perfectly a witness to your life. We see you, we’ll help you through this, and we’re along for the ride. If you find the right match hopefully you will find “someone who speaks my language,” and it will feel like a natural fit.
A therapist is not a friend, we are a witness. We see the events of your life and we provide evidence, sound proof of your humanity. An unbiased objector to put you on course when the negative self-talk is too big and you’ve run away with some crazy story of how you don’t deserve to be loved. We’ll give you the grounded evidence to counter your fears and negativity. We’ll give you those “cheers in the lows” no doubt, even when no once else can and you can’t see a shred of light in the tunnel.
Well there you have my breakdown of Katy Perry. Go ahead and give it a listen. Find a few more Scorpio artists and observe them during this next month. What do you relate to, being that you’re experiencing these energies at this time as well? Where does their natural Scorpio appear?